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The writing community, unlike many others, is extremely supportive. Though there is competition for markets, that cut-throat competitive spirit just isn\u2019t there. Maybe it is the often solitary nature of the work that drives us all to be nice to each other. Maybe we are all just nice people who realize that there is enough space for us all. Maybe it is even simpler than that, maybe it is just that writers are usually also readers, and many of us just can\u2019t get enough of the written word.<\/p>\n

Whatever inspires it, the community is welcoming, to those experienced and new alike. Secrets are shared (where to send pieces, how to word queries, which person to direct submissions to) and there is a tendency to promote others\u2019 work, as well as your own. We celebrate each other\u2019s successes and are there for each other when things are down. We fight off the trolls together and commiserate when writer\u2019s block strikes. We also laugh at ourselves for pursuing what is at times a rather bizarre way of life. Things that other professions would simply not accept, we take in stride as just another part of the day. These strange things we take for granted are what make us a special kind of crazy.<\/p>\n

At some point in a writing career, you will:<\/h3>\n

Spend hours working on a project with no guarantee of pay. <\/strong>Working \u201con spec\u201d is a given when you hope to break into a new market. Even when a paycheck is involved, you may not want to determine your hourly rate, especially after considering all the steps involved: the writing, promoting, billing, and keeping track of expenses in preparation for the end of year taxes. Seasoned freelancers frequently have pieces assigned to them, but if you want to choose what to write about, you will likely have to do so without the certainty of being paid.<\/p>\n

Compulsively check your mailbox (either real or virtual).<\/strong> Unless you write exclusively for your full time job, you engage in the process of submitting your writing for someone else\u2019s approval. While it is easy to say “submit and forget,” that piece you submitted way back when floats in the back of your mind, so that when mail arrives, you have to immediately check to see if your answer is in.<\/p>\n

Definitely experience rejection.<\/strong> Most writers get more rejection letters than those of acceptance. I recently came across advice for writers to set a goal of 100 rejections a year (side note, I am on track to meet this goal.) The key, of course, is to then review the piece, and unless there is reason to edit or rework it, send it out again, to a new publisher. Rejection is not a reflection on you, it just means that piece was not right for that market. (Some weeks that is tough to remember.)<\/p>\n

Agree to write for free<\/strong>. This may be for an organization whose mission you support, or for a friend who asks nicely, or maybe even, wait for it, for the exposure (yes, I know, people die of exposure). Though I agree that writers should be paid for their work, there are some good reasons to write for free and in the early stages of a career (or when switching niches) it may be the quickest route to steady work. It can also be thought of as a writing exercise (making your writing stronger) and is sometimes just a nice thing to do.<\/p>\n

Experience extreme emotion.<\/strong> Submitting writing is in some ways, like parenting a toddler. You question yourself and your techniques. You devote a tremendous amount of time, energy and love into something and sometimes it just isn\u2019t appreciated. On a good day, you get an \u201cI love this!\u201d \u00a0Other times you get a polite “No, thank you. This is nice, but it doesn\u2019t work for us right now,\u201d other times you get \u201cI hate this, and I hate you!\u201d (I actually have never gotten the last response from an editor<\/em>, but like toddlers, not all editors are sensitive to a fragile ego.)<\/p>\n

Make wonderful friends.<\/strong> These may be fellow writers, or people who have found and appreciate your work. These people will help you work through issues, both professional and personal. The power of the written word is tremendous. When two people connect over a story, that moment one says, \u201cMe too!\u201d is magical. It keeps writers writing and readers reading. We all want to know that we are not alone in the world, that others share in our experiences, even if they do so from afar.<\/p>\n

Be glad you took this path.<\/strong> It has its ups and downs. The rewards are often intangible but real. Even if you can’t quit your day job, you know you can make a difference. You know you are part of a special, not-so-secret club. You know the power of words, and how to wield them. You are a writer.<\/p>\n

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