{"id":2072,"date":"2023-09-12T11:49:56","date_gmt":"2023-09-12T15:49:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kimberlyyavorski.com\/whenigrowup\/?p=2072"},"modified":"2024-07-08T15:28:26","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T19:28:26","slug":"not-about-wine-mommy-wine-culture","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/kimberlyyavorski.com\/whenigrowup\/not-about-wine-mommy-wine-culture\/","title":{"rendered":"It’s Not About the Wine, The Problem With Mommy Wine Culture"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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I\u2019ve admired Celeste Yvonne\u2019s writing for years, so when she asked for help launching her first book, It\u2019s Not About the Wine, The Loaded Truth Behind Mommy Wine Culture,<\/a> <\/em>I was quick to sign up. I couldn\u2019t say what I expected, but it wasn\u2019t this. A genre-bender that expertly weaves memoir, self-help and social commentary, this book convincingly makes the case that we, as a society, need to do better. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The author shares her story as a recovering alcoholic, explaining how and why she stopped drinking. She makes no excuses for her own behavior, but points out an unfortunate truth: \u201calcohol often overpowers the strongest, highest achievers.  \u2026 [T]he pressure to drink in work and social settings can override any sensible effort to take care of ourselves.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Celeste rightfully, takes issue with \u201cmommy wine culture\u201d and explores its deep, dark origins. She argues that moms often bear the brunt of the mental load in families They often feel isolated and inadequate (this is particularly true for first-time moms and those experiencing PPD) and may turn to alcohol (a legal drug) to help cope. While society does acknowledge that parenting can be hard, there are few resources available for those who are truly struggling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A couple generations ago, people joked about \u201cmother\u2019s little helper;\u201d today there are an abundance of \u201cMommy needs a drink\u201d memes. Of course, there are problems with this narrative. It encourages us to treat depression and anxiety with a depressant. It also can contribute to relationship and self-esteem issues as well as depression and anxiety in our children. Who wants to hear that a parent needs<\/em> to drink in order to cope with their (age-appropriate) childish behaviors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Throughout the book, the author shares her experiences with alcohol and her journey to sobriety. She admits to having worries about being around other people when she first stopped drinking. She thought she\u2019d be considered a \u201cBetty Buzzkill,\u201d and that people wouldn\u2019t want to spend time with her.  She expressed surprise at her discovery that some people stopped at one or two drinks, that not everyone who drank was \u201cout to get blitzed every chance they got.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While her personal experiences are the heart of this book, the author also includes stories of other women who struggled with their alcohol use. But this is not simply a collection of stories. She has also done her research. I these pages can be found information on credible studies not only about alcohol abuse but also eating disorders, depression and anxiety, all of which often co-exist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am not the target audience for this book, but I have known and loved several problem drinkers, and see truth in what she has written. While I used to laugh at the jokes, I too came to the conclusion that I don\u2019t want my children believing they would actually \u201cdrive me to drink.\u201d I applaud Celeste Yvonne for being brave enough to challenge these \u201cnorms\u201d and step out into the open to encourage other moms to do the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This book is a valuable resource for any woman (and perhaps some men) questioning their drinking habits, who is sober curious, and\/or who is looking for support on their journey to sobriety. It should also serve as a call to action for a society that has done too little to support parents during a time that can be among the happiest and most challenging periods of their lives. For those who are struggling, this book presents a clear, encouraging message from someone who’s been there: \u201csobriety wasn\u2019t a punishment. \u2026 sobriety was the reward.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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