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Even though I am an introvert, most of my friends are extroverts. Many of them are the type who are eager to dance and sing in public, even without a healthy dose of \u201cliquid courage.\u201d I try to join in, but not matter how intense my efforts, I am invariably hit with, \u201cCome on, get into it!\u201d Even when I am putting myself out there, I am still seen as being quiet and reserved.<\/p>\n
I have overcome my childhood fear of people and over time have come to the realization that people are fun to be around. I can carry on a conversation, even in groups, and can even speak in public (when I am prepared to do so).<\/p>\n
In a relatively recent workshop for youth leaders, I broke into a sweat when singled out as part of an icebreaker activity. The activity was completely non-threatening, but I felt put on the spot and felt panicked. I tried to hide my discomfort, but I saw that raised eyebrow.<\/p>\n
For the most part, I am good at faking it. I can run events, manage groups, but put me on the spot and I freeze.\u00a0 Getting up in front of a group takes considerable mental preparation. I can\u2019t do it on the fly. Expressing my fears has resulted in comments like, \u201cYou’re so funny.\u201d Clearly my distress is not apparent. But under that confident illusion is a small child who is sweating and shaking. The panic bubbles up. The flight instinct is kicking in. I know that I can\u2019t run home (like I did as a child once from a birthday party that caused too intense feelings) but the panic is very real.<\/p>\n
I want to be like them. I want to be able to dance and sing and have fun. This is not to say that I necessarily feel I am missing anything, I am content to participate quietly. I enjoy occasionally joining in as part of a group, but never as the center of attention. I envy those who can dance like no one is watching; I am just not one of them, unless I am surrounded by a crowd and therefore invisible. I find safety there. Being pushed to be the center of attention causes panic. Finding myself in the center of a ring of people, I can\u2019t breathe. Of course I realize no one expects this, it is not\u201d normal\u201d, so then there is the flush of embarrassment.<\/p>\n
My family forgets this about me. I have them fooled as well. I know they have at least on occasion been aware of my discomfort. My parents have known this about me. In fact, after the fact, I found out that they had held their breath when I read a passage at a friend\u2019s wedding and were impressed that I got through it. Perhaps these successes make them think I have completely overcome my social anxiety.\u00a0 I keep trying, and reminding myself to push beyond my comfort zone, but I don\u2019t think extrovert will ever be a term that could be used to describe me. Honestly, I\u2019m not sure that’s necessarily a bad thing.<\/p>\n
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4 of #52essays 2017<\/p>\n
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